You plan your career path. You invest time in the gym to keep your body fit and looking good. You spend time managing your money and retirement investments. So, isn't it time to funnel some of that planning energy into one of the most important aspects of your life -- your relationships.
The bonds we solidify with others help support us on the low points of our day, careers and dreams. They help to inspire us and show us the lighter side of life. They can chase away the clouds in our eyes and bring laughter into our hearts.
There is a widespread belief that energy flows where ever your attention goes. Similarly, attraction goes wherever positive energy flows. Think about it. If your attention is focused on self-improvement and the things that make you happy, then you will be sure to attract someone with a similar disposition. Conversely, if your attention is focused on everything that is wrong with you, the people you end up dating, or the perhaps even the world itself, then you’re pretty much going to reap what you sow.
Your mindset alone can really dictate your dating experiences for the better or or worse. It’s the #1 factor you have 100% control over that can improve your dating life significantly. One of the ways to shift your focus to a more positive mindset and make your relationship dreams a reality is by incorporating Mind Maps into your "relationship planning."
Like a roadmap, Mind Maps is your GPS that will help you get from where you are NOW to where you WANT to be. According to Mind Map inventor, Tony Buzan, mind mapping is the easiest way to put information into your brain for organizing facts and thoughts in such a way that your brain's natural way of thinking is immediately engaged.
Mind Maps involve giving an overview of a subject, such as what you want from a relationship. Using colour, curved lines, branches, symbols and words, you visually represent your dreams and goals. Your mental list of "must haves" take shape into a colourful, highly organized diagram.
In short, this method "can help you think very well about what you want" out of a relationship. Some things to consider:
1) What is important to you?
2) What are your values?
3) Thoughts on children?
4) Introvert vs. Extroversion?
6) Physical fitness?
Mind mapping helps put your dream relationship in perspective and give you a better sense of where you're going in the dating world.
But it doesn't have to end there. As stated, there are times when fear or negative thoughts get the better of us. Why not Mind Map the best of you. What do you have to offer? What are your best personality traits? What makes you unique? By Mind Mapping your ideal image, you will develop strategies for presenting your finer points.
After all, dating and even networking is about self-presentation and a good impression.