It's one of the easiest ways to douse the spark of chemistry on a first date. Talking about yourself, your work, your life and your accomplishments can be draining and work against you in trying to woo the other person. The really bad news? It's also completely natural.
The most common reason for the excessive need to chat is nerves. Plain and simple. You want to break the ice and impress the other person. Who doesn't? Prattling off your entire résumé in the first couple hours comes across as insecure and, yes, nervous —especially when you fail to ask your date about them!
The key is to take a breath. Ask the other person about them. Transition from talking to listening to what your date has to offer to the conversation. Show that you are interested in getting to know the other person . . . and not just showing how great you are. We are all more impressed by someone who talks with us as opposed to one who talks at us.
AWKWARD SILENCE AVOIDANCE MANUVER
Let's face it. Some of us are more okay with silence than others. A few moments of quiet in a conversation is not a reflection of how the date is going. In fact, the more comfortable you are in silence with the other person, the more comfortable you are with them. Couples every day engage in talk over dinner, without having to fill every convo gap with dialogue. Give the other person time to breathe, relax and just enjoy your company.
Many people keep up the talking to make sure their date isn't bored, which actually causes their eyes to glaze over. If you want to engage your date, ask them questions. Ask them about their pets or what they do on the weekends? The more interested you are in them, the more they will be interested in you.
At the end of the evening, too much talking comes from a need to impress the other person. A first date is about getting to know the other person and deciding if you want to see them again . . . not about making sure they like you. Slow down. Get to know the other person. That's the key to dating . . . relationships.