A friend of mine recently sought my advice on an issue I have encountered several times over the recent months.
We each have that one person in our relationship history. Perhaps it was our first love. Maybe it was a powerful feeling that you have not been able to recapture with anyone else. It may have even been someone you dated on and off again but the timing was never really right to take the next step.
Then, years later, an email pops up in your inbox or a friend request comes through your Facebook account. It's that one person. A mixture of "oh no" and "It's (insert name)." You are hesitant to respond for you are in a relationship or at least not looking for one with them.
But what if? What could it hurt to shoot them a quick email to at least tell them you're doing fine, happily involved and moved on? Perhaps they just need closure? What can it hurt?
My advice to my friend and to any other person in this position: don't engage crazy.
Unless you are willing to welcome that person or ex back into your life, don't respond. Any respond will be seen as a gateway. They will be able to respond to you, commenting on the content you provided.
If you are happy and have moved on, let it go. Read it and delete it. The two of you are in different points in your lives now and you are different people. To think that you can rekindle what once was under different circumstances is a fairy tale that rarely happens in real life.
Don't engage crazy. Let it go.
What would you do? Would you respond? Has this happened to you? Share in the comments below.
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