The holiday season can be overwhelming even for those not in the midst of dating. Long lines at the mall and even longer hours shopping online can dwindles down precious time. Throw in holiday parties, family gatherings and friend get together and it is easy to feel a bit humbug.
It is easy to focus on what we don't have -- the lack of time, money, energy or that special someone. This negative thinking can spiral down to mentally pointing out the what character traits we find lacking in ourselves. Our minds zero in on the things that are missing, skipping over what we do have. Pretty soon, all we see are the negative aspects of life, ourselves and our dates.
Perhaps it is time for a gratitude adjustment.
"Gratitude is a sentiment we'd all do well to cultivate, according to positive psychologists, mental health clinicians and researchers who seek to help everyone create more joy in life. Feeling thankful and expressing that thanks makes you happier and heartier," according to an article on Psychology Today.com.
The hardest part is getting started. Once you start looking for the things you are grateful for, it is easy to get the snowball rolling the other direction. The more you express gratitude, the easier it is to find items in which you are thankful for.
It doesn't have to be anything big. In fact, just increasing the amount of times you say "thank you" in a day can have a positive impact on your mindset. Thank the person for holding the door open or the driver as you get off the bus.
It doesn't even have to be directed towards a person. Make a list of the positive things that happened during the day. Make a list of the people who you feel you owe a "thank you" letter to -- even if you never send it.
By focusing on what we do have, the areas where we lack don't seem quite as important.
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