As a matchmaker, I am sometimes surprised with the decisions that really smart people make with respect to interactions with people who can influence their dating experiences.
One of the top “turn offs” for both men and women is when someone is rude to the waiter during a date. In my opinion the same rule applies to their matchmaking team. I always tell clients that dating is a journey and that they will experience many different emotions during our time together, and all commit to this both contractually and verbally before we proceed. The paperwork clearly states that “matchmaking is not a science and therefore we cannot guarantee love or marriage” however people either love or hate us dependent upon their last date.
I have received emails from clients who were upset that their date didn't want to be an instant part of a "couple." The client expressed their anger with our company for setting them up with a date who "just wants to play the field." Another client felt like he was "lied to" because his date wasn't "model material."
Managing expectations is a responsibility on the part of both the matchmaker and the client. Our job is to source prospective dates using common sense, a list of criteria developed during our meeting and a good dose of intuition. However, nothing is exact. There are times when chemistry fails to show up for the dinner engagement. Or perhaps one (or both) of you are distracted by work deadlines.
Singles do experience a bit of frustration as hopes are ignited and extinguished with each scheduled date. We understand that the dating process can be tiring and, yes, disappointing at times. Keeping your emotions in check is a common courtesy while interacting with your matchmaker.
When it comes down to it, treat your matchmaker with kindness and respect. Life is all about karma and the secret of attraction. Put out negative energy and, like it or not, that is what you will attract.