I know someone who claims to hibernate during the winter because all of the couples she sees snuggling up and keeping each other warm make her want to burrow under her duvet and wait for spring. What a sad way to approach Valentine's Day.
Perhaps she, and those like her, should focus on the basics of the holiday: connecting with the people we care about . . . including ourselves. The spirit of Valentine's Day is for us to take a moment out of our busy lives to appreciate those we hold dear. It's not a couples holiday but rather one about friendship and love.
With that thought, here are four simple ways you can recapture the spirit of Feb. 14th and enjoy it:
1) Reconnect With Good Friends
With busy schedules, many of us have fallen out of touch with people we consider to be close friends. While catching up via Facebook or texts can be fun, it is a poor replacement for some one-on-one time. Carve out some time for friends you hold dear. Share a laugh, a moment instead of a picture or a link. Memories last a lifetime and warm the heart.
2) Bit Adieu to Former Loves
Valentine's Day can tempt you into reminiscing about a former love or a recent relationship that just didn't work out. It is easy to reconsider your choice and even contemplate rekindling the romance. Know that this is mostly out of habit or the need to have someone there on this day. Before you hit send on the text to an ex, think about all the reasons why the romance fizzled. Sometimes we have to take the focus off finding Mr. or Ms. Right and concentrate, instead, on losing Mr. or Ms. Wrong.
3) Make Love a Priority
Many say they want a relationship but don't have time to date - which begs the question: How will they have time for a relationship if they don't even have time to date? If finding love is a priority to you, you have to be willing to say "yes" to events, parties and get togethers. Only by getting into the mix will you find your match.
4) Love YOUR life
The best thing you can do for your love life is to love your life! For one thing, you are more likely to attract people since there's nothing sexier than someone who is passionate and engaged in life. More importantly, though, your life will be more fun and meaningful if you focus on outlets that bring you pleasure. Go skiing Take a curling lesson. Wander through a craft fair. Indulge in activities that make you happy.
BONUS TIP: Shift the focus from what you lack (a partner) to what you do have. You lead a fulfilling life in so many respects -- don't let what is missing take over your life.
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