You've made it past the first few awkward and you're still happily dating someone. Congratulations! You are moving out of the dating arena and into relationship territory.
You no longer have to worry about attracting a partner, going out and meeting people at restaurants, getting set up by well-meaning friends (or your Aunt Beverly) or even talking yourself into creating an online dating site account.
But being in a relationship does create it's own unique set of dilemmas. One of the tricky ones is to continue to discover new things about each other while defining ourselves.
Think about it. Has the spontaneous given way to more routine dating habits? Do you have chinese take out night on Wednesdays? Does Saturday morning always start with the same walk around the sea wall? Do you watch the same TV shows?
Perhaps it is time to shake up your routine. According to Stony Brook University researcher Arthur Aron, Ph.D in an article on Happify.com, "studies show that participating in new and exciting activities as a couple increases relationship quality. That's because being able to experience what he calls "self-expansion" alongside your partner makes the relationship more fulfilling and helps to stave off the boredom and staleness that contribute to so many breakups."
New experiences create the foundation for expanding your relationship with your partner. The more you seek to break away from the rut, the easier it is to form new connections with each other.
When you find yourself reaching for the takeout menu or the remote, think about what you could be doing instead to further your new relationship.